We know we can be jerks, but we desperately want you to know how much we love you.
We actually get our feelings hurt very easily, but we’ll never let you know that.
We want to talk about our emotions, but it is very, very difficult for us. When asked to say what we’re feeling, our minds draw a complete blank, and we just don’t know how to express it, so we generally just end up either refusing to speak about it, or end up muttering a lot of nonsense. It’s like a wall goes up in our mind preventing us from expressing ourselves.
We’re actually incredibly insecure and terrified of the people we love leaving us, despite our generally prideful exterior.
We notice when you’re hurting, even if we don’t say anything.
We notice a lot about people’s emotions, actually. While INFJs definitely hold the trophy when it comes to who reads people better, INTJs aren’t far behind, we’re just a lot more quiet about it. Why say anything if it isn’t important?
We put up our “cold sarcastic charismatic” persona as a protection, and what we really want is someone who cares enough to try and get past it.
